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Hello! I am glad that you have stopped by to learn more about this journey I call life. Have you taken a break today? Have you set limits to yourself and family? Are you ready to talk about some hot discussions or maybe just some fun ones?

Sometimes things will get serious- I had a blog called no more judgement that was lost when the hosting company was switched. I am starting over and you will see a category, as well. That is my dedication to help stop bullying. I hate it and believe we can do so much more than we are.

Other topics you will see are my different paths in business, life, thoughts, reading, and so much more. Please feel free to join in on any conversation. I am so happy to have you here.

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Mortality

Over the last week or so, I have watched a friend go through the hard times of watching her mom in the hospital and eventually her gate was open to walk with Jesus. Her family was close by and it looks like they made so many wonderful memories in the hardest of times. Many times I found myself crying even though I never met this family because I understand so well what they are going through.

I remember that summer before thinking mom had a look in her eyes like she knew her final days were coming soon. I told my husband, we don’t have long with mom, maybe 6 months. He said, “Really?” and didn’t see what I saw but knew that we were close and sometimes I just know these things. Right before that Christmas, I remember thinking that she didn’t look well again- she just had this look in her eyes that I could see her time was coming. She ended up going into the doctor because of this cough and he officially told my parents it wouldn’t be long.

She celebrated Christmas with us and we got her into the nursing home after. She wasn’t doing well. She did her best every day to show us she was okay though. She hated the breathing tube so took it out of her nose often. She also tried to be stubborn with doing stuff for herself but they installed an alarm on her bed that went off if she tried to get out on her own. She couldn’t breathe well and it was really hard for her to even walk to the bathroom.

We colored and played cards when she was up for it and visited often. I knew she was hanging on for something but knew it wouldn’t be long. Easter came around. I saw her that morning on my way to the inlaw’s home. I told her I would be back after the others visited. I knew everyone was coming and with our family that would be crowded in that nursing home. I gave her a big hug, she didn’t have much in her hugs in weeks. She smiled, she was so happy for everyone to be coming.

I stopped back to the nursing home, I heard mom had such a wonderful day. I came into the room and she could barely move. I knew it would be soon. I gave her a hug and she just hung on. It was her strongest hug in a very long time. I said, “it’s okay mom, you can go see grandma and grandpa. I’ll be okay”. She shook her head yes and just held on for a few mins more. She fell back to sleep and I left.

I called my sister who was the contact for everything and I said you call me the second you hear. She was like what do you mean? mom was so good today, she laughed, told jokes, and so full of life. I said, Kathy- it will be soon. I explained what happened tonight and she was a bit baffled but knew I was probably right. I got the text first thing the next morning and I jumped in the car and went straight out there. She was barely breathing and passed so beautifully in front of the few of us that were there. My sister who was travelling still, said she saw a light in the rain and knew what had happened. She was close. It was so beautiful.

It is so hard to lose a mother but also so hard to watch them suffer. My prayers are going out to my friend’s family. I pray that they find comfort in knowing that she led a good life and will be going onto her eternal life free from pain. My love goes out to all who have lost someone close to them or going through anything similar.

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Week 2- Year of Marathon

This week was slower for me on the treadmill. I think I have a cold or at least been fighting one. I ended up taking off on Thursday, snow came through and I had to being Hermione to the vet for a followup after her surgery.

On Sat (the day I try to spend as much time as possible there), I started on the elliptical to try something different and see if that would help with timing. It did backfire on me slightly but only because I was right next to the fan and that flared up my allergies/ cold. I only made it 15 mins on that before switching to the treadmill. I did a lot of hills because I was struggling more with breathing after the fan thing… I finished my first book, which this has been great to do to keep me on the machines longer. I don’t think it helps much with the speed though. I ended the week gaining a mile. 12 weeks until my first race of the year… 20 until my first 1/2 marathon, and 38 weeks until the marathon. So I have to start gaining a mile in my longs runs pretty much every other week starting in Feb.

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Week 1 – Year of Marathon

2018 has started off a bit on the rocky side. Monday was a tough run after celebrating the night before. I do not do well for a few days after staying up past 10 (really 9 but lately its been more like 10). I was on the treadmill for 47 mins but barely could do 3 miles.

Tuesday was yoga day and it really felt good to do this after yesterday’s workout. I started a 30 day series on You Tube. I also did 10 mins of Pilates abs. Wednesday- back to the treadmill. Today was much better but I couldn’t find my headphones which was not as bad as I was dreading it to be. I did 40 mins running and 20 walking on a incline fast paced. I did day 2 of yoga in the evening. The run was great but did get a bit tired at the end. Thursday is repeat run day but at slower pace. I was very sore this day so although I spent 56 mins at the gym, I was much slower- I was exhausted from sleeping hard too, not a great combo. Did day 3 of yoga that evening.

Friday is always yoga day. It was 33 mins this day and normally I aim for an hour total but did day 4 of the series and was still pretty sore. Saturday morning, I got up late, had my morning coffee and forced myself off to the gym- long run day. Got there and the parking lot was completely full. I mean even the school side was packed. I figured a mix of things going on here but thought fine, I’ll just go this evening. I headed out to visit my day and by the time I got home, I barely wanted to do my yoga routine but at least squeezed that in. Then made the excuse on Sunday that if I run, I’ll throw my next week’s run off so I just did yoga again.

Eating wise, I did okay. I haven’t started the Paleo but I’ve been doing better with avoiding cream in my coffee. This is hard. I’ve cooked more from home but did drive out to get a deep dish on Friday night. I need to start making this from home. I know it. I did pull out the pressure cookers last night and made an excellent version of our Chipotle Chicken and rice with veggies.

I do wonder how I’ll ever make it to marathon ready but at the same time, signed up for a couple more races that will make me want to run more sooner. No said it would be easy but I’m glad I have my journal to really take note of how I am feeling what I am doing and to try an work harder to the future. It is always just 1 step at a time and I know I can tackle anything I set my mind too even if my mind tries to counter it.

For those just starting out in running- imagine yourself doing it as much as possible. See the success and you will do it. Don’t let that piece of you that says nope never going to happen take over, counter it every time with a vision of your crossing that finish line. Start with the starting line, all those people around you, where you are starting, speed you want to go (I personally like the back so I can force myself slow at first than I do better over all), imagine the trail and those around you as you run, some will pass you and you will pass some, feel the breeze, see the hill, hear your music and even imagine the water stations, how you will run up to it, pause to grab a water cup, drink it down as your walking away, throw your cup and a way you go again. See that finish line now, now you push it forward, run more, you want to finish strong, you see that camera coming soon, try to smile with your body so you don’t look so dead in the photo (I hate how I look crossing the line every time- lol) and there you go, you did it!

Multiply this for longer races and you will get there. You can run and you can do this for your workout plans too. Get your mind wrapped around you doing this. You are strong.

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It’s okay to cheat

on your diet people- get your head out of the gutter. I would never condone hurting another person or breaking a commandment.

I’m already seeing posts on how many have already cheated on their 2018 diet. Who cares? Seriously it is okay. Do not let this define you or beat yourself up about it. I’ve been there, done that. It gives you a great excuse to quit and are you a quitter??? No!

So yes, you had that delicious coffee treat that cost you 500 calories. oh man. or maybe it was those leftover Christmas cookie- so yummy. Nope, it was those delicious red velvet cupcakes that I made with the yummy cream cheese frosting (Am I a genius in baking or what?). Yes, we all do it but we cannot let it define us.

Today, we get up and start again- no I hate that as much as I hate the word diet. We continue on with our practice. We go out and exercise again, we continue eating clean today and we do not let 1 little cheat define our new year. I know I am not. I’m not letting the scale define me either but I’ll save that for a different day rant. lol

Now go out there and kick some butt!

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Complaining Goal

This year I have actually decided that I would focus on “resolutions”. This is one that didn’t make the “list” per say but one that I find just as important to work on. We have become a society that has found humor in complaining and it has become a focus. Monday is coming- oh no another work week. What? Our ancestors thrived in working. We go to school to become our dream only complain about doing it?

When I was re-reading Psycho-Cybernetics (which is like reading for the first time), I heard that someone predicted that the “Thank God it’s Friday” phrase would stir up an “Oh no it’s Monday” phrase. It did. To push it further, we now get a long holiday weekend or vacation and absolutely dread going back to work the next week. It doesn’t make sense.

I look at my 18 year old son and he is proud to be working. He is a sandwich artist and he does everything he can to work. He does not complain. He is in college to do something much more and he is enjoying his ride to get there. I think sometimes we are so focused on what we want in the future that we forget to just sit back and enjoy where we are now.

I do believe this starts with a mindset of thankfulness and looking forward to each day as it comes. Work is not going to go away and if we spend each week dreading Monday, we are wasting at least one-seventh of our life complaining about Mondays. Wow, that is too much time focused on the negative. So this year I am vowing to look at each day as a new adventure, to be happy with what I have (I could be jobless and be stressed about so much more), and to make sure I know each day what I am thankful for. What are your commitments?

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Goals and Dreams

I read recently how goals are dreams with deadlines. I really like this way of looking at things. Goal setting is hard work but dreaming is easy. The reason that I love this saying though is in order to make any goal come true, you really have to dream it out. Think about the very thing that you want at that very moment. You need to imagine each step it takes to get that thing all the way down to the finest details. What are you wearing, what are you doing, where are you going, what are you driving to get there, what color is the room, how about the decor? Each one of these details are vital to making your dreams come true.

So in goal setting, it is important to follow the well-known SMART system. Make sure the goal is specific and that you have a time-frame in mind. Do not limit yourself by expectations though. Imagine yourself in the place you really want to be. Something that you can track your progress is important too but do not limit yourself to only picking something easy because of this. If you can do it in your mind, you can do it. Now obviously you may not fly a broomstick but at one time, a plane was unimaginable. The best thing you can do for yourself is to dream. Each day imagine each step it will take to get to your goals.

An example that I am working with right now is. I get up and imagine my workout for the day. How far am I going to go, what am I wearing, what am I listening to, how do I feel, what is the speed, what is my intention. I visualize it all out as soon as I get up to make it happen. My goal with this is to improve each workout, to get faster and stronger. Through these visualizations, I will have already convinced my mind that I did so doing it is not a problem.

This is how you build your confidence in your goals. No going back because you let your mind believe you can’t go any further. Time to convince yourself differently. I have a few books that I can recommend to help you get there. Take that leap of faith and do what you dreamed you can do.

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Christmas time and keeping on track

This is absolutely my favorite time of year. Since the moment that I got married, I have been doing everything I can to make this feeling last. It comes earlier (except the last couple of years, we have waited until Nov). Decorating is so much fun. Putting up each special ornament, the ones the kids spent so much time making when they were little to our fancy ones that we spent a bit of money on. I love pulling out each Santa, the nativity sets, my stop in for cocoa sign, it all is just so wonderful.

Shopping- well I have this love/ hate relationship with this. I do not like the big crowds or if people are pushy (yes, I avoid black Friday with everything I have- lol). But to find the gifts that I know each person will love, that is something special.

Baking- Here is the where the trouble tends to sneak in a bit. I love to bake and I’m good at it. It is so hard to resist my frosting (and I really am not the biggest fan otherwise) or my carmel- oh so yummy). Then my sister makes my other favorites and wow am I done.

Cooking- Yes, this is another downfall for me. I’m great at it but the problem is this time of year, I get soooooo busy that we do nothing but eat out. Yuck! And then the pounds start to come….

And last but not least- exercise. Yup I make every excuse not to make it to the gym during this time of year. So what am I going to do to get back there? Well I went out a bought a few new things that I am excited to use and I hate to waste money. New running shoes- yay! These are my favorite. A new style of sports bra from Victoria Secret. I have always loved them for support as they have the double layering with the clip and zip. This one is lighter weight though and does not have the zip so I’m excited to see what I think. Then there is the new running log book. Yay! Something to keep focused on the marathon.

I also bought a Paleo book to try eating better. I’m committing to the 28 days of strict eating and will start to add somethings back but watching closely what I eat. Lastly I bought a new bag that I can carry my purse in if I want but most importantly carry my planners and some notebooks to stay really focused this year. I’m looking forward to an awesome 2018- how about you?

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2018 Goals

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about the things that I want to start doing. I’m really doing a purging week this week to start strong.

But it is a little ironic when I think about my post for New Years last year and when I look back over the year.

Some things I find myself thinking about is

  • being careful not to go overboard to a point that I quit
  • How will I stay on track since I’ve set some major goals
  • Is there a team I can join to keep accountability
  • And so many other fears that have me questioning everything

I hate setting anything with a new year in mind but honestly it’s more about timing than a new year. See I set the goal for marathon before now. I knew the holidays would be hard and while I tried to keep to a schedule, as soon as I got busy that went away. How fitting that my previous trainers newsletter today was all about excuses. He stated that if you were promised millions of dollars would you find a way anyway to get you healthy living done?

Wow that’s pretty powerful and I do it all the time. This is a huge reason why I’m scared to commit to the marathon. I’m great at making excuses and that is not a way to live. I need to fight for my health and doing things right and subsequently this race.

So while I enter a new year with many goals, most are mini-goals to achieve a much larger goal which I’m hoping in the long run will lead to a life long of better health (looky there I made a pun)

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Conformity

I am different. Sometimes my thoughts, actions, clothes, and everything else is not the same as everyone else and guess what? It is okay! I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. I have raised 4 children that are young adults and each are so incredibly different from one another. They have the same moral compass for the main part but could not be further from the same. Sometimes I find myself questioning this and how it came to be.

The thing is, there are times in my life that I feel like I’m losing an argument because my opinion of something does not conform to the crowd. My opinion vs. theirs does not make either one of us right or wrong- it is how we feel. Why do we do this to each other. I’ve seen pure stubbornness come out to the point that people fight when you can see neither wants to anymore. But the thing is, they know that what they feel is valid and the other person just cannot see so they try to explain in different ways to get the other person to understand. But all that comes out is more frustration because the other person is doing the same. Both are feeling Like the other is understanding and no one is winning.

Why is it so hard to understand the easiest thing to do would be to say- I understand your point of view and mine is different. Both are okay to have and we should not change either just know that we each have a point of view.

One of my favorite quotes by an unknown author is “You don’t have to be like the world to have an impact on the world. You don’t have to be like the crowd to change the crowd. You don’t have to lower yourself down to their level to lift them up to your level. Holiness doesn’t seek to be odd. Holiness seeks to be like God”

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A Fairytale

I was once asked, a long time ago, how could I believe as it sounds like a great story similar to Santa Claus. At that time, I was a bit thrown back and really wasn’t sure how to answer other than saying faith. Sure I’ve seen several things going around since then about how I would rather believe and be wrong and nothing happen than to not believe and be wrong and sentenced to a miserable afterlife. Sure that is great and all but here’s the thing, this friend is a great atheist friend of mind who needs facts.

She is an excellent person just never knew God. This question has haunted me for years. Anyone who knows a Christian well, knows that they love the opportunity to share and have been called to do so. So, when they haven’t been able to answer a question the way that they felt they should, it tends to bother them.

I have been reading Ezekiel off and on recently. The first chapter, you try to figure out what exactly he saw. It sounds like straight out of a movie with the 4 heads part man and part beast. But, it also leads to the thrown and the Lord. I would love to sit and analyze this out with a drawing one day. But when you read what he is called to do, it is not fairy tale story.   In fact, many would think he was crazy for listening to God in such a way.

This got me to thinking about the Bible as a whole and there is a lot of torture, war, anger, and no where near the loving story of Santa Claus. So, then there is Jesus, which I do think can sound very similar to those who don’t know Him. Sure, he saved us from out own sin. And he was a Saint but the torture that He endured is so much more or different than any story that I’ve read.

When I think of Saint Nick, sure there is the story of how he had to sneak around as to not get caught breaking the law but so he could spread the gifts of love and allow for children to have happiness. It is funny how this turned into a tradition of selfishness in many ways when it started so innocent. Jesus never snuck around even though many did not want to hear or believe who He was. He was ridiculed and punished even though He proved himself to be great time and time again.

Maybe this is why I froze on that day, there is so much to think about and how do you explain all of this in a short conversation. And with me, I definitely could make this so much longer with all the account of things not being easy at all but how in their beliefs, the conquered over evil. Okay so maybe that does sound a little fairy-talish but again, what does it really hurt to believe? And what happens if I’m right? I would much rather be here living my life in the name of the Father than questioning anything else.

Proverbs 15: 1- A gentle answer turns away wrath but harsh words stir up anger. 24- The path of life leads upward for the wise to keep him from going down to the grave.

Proverbs 16: 19-20- Better to be lowly in spirit and among the oppressed than to share plunder with the proud. Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers, and blessed is he who trusts in the Lord.

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