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Hello! I am glad that you have stopped by to learn more about this journey I call life. Have you taken a break today? Have you set limits to yourself and family? Are you ready to talk about some hot discussions or maybe just some fun ones?

Sometimes things will get serious- I had a blog called no more judgement that was lost when the hosting company was switched. I am starting over and you will see a category, as well. That is my dedication to help stop bullying. I hate it and believe we can do so much more than we are.

Other topics you will see are my different paths in business, life, thoughts, reading, and so much more. Please feel free to join in on any conversation. I am so happy to have you here.

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A common way that we sin

1 Corinthians 8:12- You are sinning against Christ when you sin against other Christians by encouraging them to do something they believe is wrong.

This about this verse for just a minute. Meditate on it and tell me what comes to you. It is important that we all understand that each verse in the Bible speaks to us as different parts of our life in different ways. We do don’t all get the same interpretation as the next person. They will be similar but will mean something different.

God gives us each our own paths and what is His calling for one is not His calling for another. Again, some people may have a similar path- such as a calling to be a Pastor- but they don’t have the same road map at all. That is why we each have our favorites to listen to. One may draw me in more while the other is driving you.

So now to what this verse made me think of today. Stephen Hawkings passed away recently and wow all the judgment on that man for not being a believer. It is not our place to judge him and maybe this is a bad example as according to him, God had no leading in his life. But I still believe God was there. He was a miracle- he was not to live as long as he did and his brain- wow! Okay, so I wish he could have seen God in his life here and maybe he did before he left this earth but we do not know God’s judgement on him so we must not judge. Do not bully someone after they passed.

Okay so now on to what else came to mind while reading this verse for me. Social media really as a whole. News stories with a response section as well. I’ve seen how much these things light up with responses because people strongly don’t believe the same way as another person. Every single one of our presidents are great examples on this. Now I’m not saying we don’t have a right to discussion on the topic but we judge the person’s path while discussing what they are doing. We need to stand up to a change that will affect the greater mass in a negative way- yes. But all the name calling and bullying that goes on with it- is what NEEDS to stop.

Christians get a bad name for doing this. The ones who like to say someone is finally rotting in hell because they didn’t believe- what??? Or that another person is going to hell for living their lifestyle that is definitely not a calling for them. Or they call them names based on some biased opinion. Those who cast the first stones…. We need to stop doing this. Yes God has his set of rules and yes we need to follow them but when it comes to our paths and interrupting scripture, we each have our place and we shall not judge or tempt the other person into doing what God has called them to do. We can only follow our path and share Jesus’s great love with others. Can you imagine being able to walk His path and be as kind and loving as He was when on this earth? It would be so beautiful. Yes, we are sinners and would never be able to be as perfect as He was/is but we can strive every day to live our lives in a way that is pleasing to Him.

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Just write

I have found myself thinking a lot about my next blog lately. Problem is so many ideas and no time to sit in front of the computer. Then the ideas change, whether it is the same general idea that has changed into a new way to write it that might be good but not how I remembered feeling or if it is just completely forgotten and a new idea pops in my mind.

So many ideas on running. I’ve learned so much in this time of no writing. Then the whole shooting in Florida and wow did I think of some powerful ideas/ well thoughts mostly. I mean we keep hearing on the gun control and oh my gosh do people go crazy on this and not hear the full thoughts of each side. Each side has great ideas but no one wants to listen, they just want to fight, which is just as bad as the shooter.

So this blog is just a reminder that if you are thinking it, write it out. It doesn’t have to be in front of a computer but if you get it down on paper then one day it can get out in different ways.

OH and I finally started my thankful journal of the year. Its been hard to keep up with every night, I’m just trying to remember the great things of the day and just be thankful.

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Running for a cause

Okay for the last 2 weeks I have wanted to get in front of a computer to blog but wow does life get in the way. 🙂

So 2 weeks ago, I wanted to tell you how bad not stretching is for you.  As you know, I typically yoga before and after a run and on my “rest” days. Well that 1 week, I just didn’t have the time. Found myself running in more ways than 1 and not having time to stretch much (yoga is more than that but for this week…). Well come Monday after that morning run- oh my was a I sore. I started a new to me app- Nike + Run. But I did not run anything that was much different that week from normal.

I came to realize how important stretching or my yoga really is. I don’t get sore- sore. I get that oh my I worked out sore a bit but not that I can’t move sore when I do my yoga. Funny thing is yoga makes me so much stronger so I can feel that workout sore from that too. I love it! And will not risk that again.

So I mentioned the app- Well I have to tell you how much I love this app- seriously! I have slowed way down which is a bit uncomfortable, especially at first but it’s made me a better runner. I can run for longer times and my sprints are getting much faster. I love it! seriously to the point I am obsessed. lol

So tonight was the big really learning about what I am doing by signing up for this race with world vision. I learned about the cause more. So there are kids that have to walk miles for clean water. They talked particularly about this one girl who is now 13. She has been walking since she was 4- 3 miles to get dirty water every day for her family. She risks so many things in this walk- animal predators and people ones. Scary stuff. I learned that it only took $50 to get her clean water for a lifetime. This is what I am doing raising money for kids like her to get water- no clean water, not the dirty stuff that kills 800 children a day!- for a lifetime. I don’t know how I could have said no- 26.2 miles- I said never. Well here is never and I am going to kick never’s Arse!

If you want to sponsor me-

Whatever you can do helps- 5 people donating $10 would get that water for one for a lifetime so that is just a start. I want to get water for 200 kids. That is saving the lives of 1/4 who pass away each day from dirty water! Crazy. But there are so many others running with me. One person cannot do it all but together we are a beast and we will tackle it together. Thank you all for your support- love to you!

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Failing Forward

It is an interesting concept, isn’t it? Taking your failures and using them to kick butt moving forward. Talk about motivation to get back out there and go. This past season, I promised myself that I wouldn’t let it get bad. As soon as the cold weather hit, I got a gym membership. I started going. Problem- I could NoT get my eating under control.

So it’s just Thanksgiving, okay just a couple weeks until Christmas and so on. Then the exercise lessened. Do you ever feel like when it is cold out that you just cannot do anything but cuddle under a warm blanket and drink something warm? Oh I’m such a sucker for this. Throw in some Gilmore Girls or Harry Potter and I won’t be moving for a week.

So I knew I’ve gained back some of my weight. Yesterday I forced a weighin with measurements and pics. Oh how I hate that scale! So yes, I’m back where I started (well almost). And we are talking like 2 years ago!!! I really had a tougher year in general- seriously this weight gain was more over the last 9 months or so.

The measurements hurt a bit (and if I was still getting measured by a trainer, I probably would have cried). But my pics weren’t horrible. I can tell in the mid-section so much but my face hasn’t really returned yet so there is still hope.

Seeing all this- I have 2 options

  1. Crawl back in the hole that has been keeping me warm this winter
  2. Kick Arse and get this back on track now

fun fact: husband is on board so will make it easier. We are trying the Paleo diet for 28 days and will assess and decide if we need to add any foods back sticking to a clean diet mentality or if we will continue mostly with Paleo. I’ll try to post updates on the food too as we go. Alright off to the gym!

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Over the last week or so, I have watched a friend go through the hard times of watching her mom in the hospital and eventually her gate was open to walk with Jesus. Her family was close by and it looks like they made so many wonderful memories in the hardest of times. Many times I found myself crying even though I never met this family because I understand so well what they are going through.

I remember that summer before thinking mom had a look in her eyes like she knew her final days were coming soon. I told my husband, we don’t have long with mom, maybe 6 months. He said, “Really?” and didn’t see what I saw but knew that we were close and sometimes I just know these things. Right before that Christmas, I remember thinking that she didn’t look well again- she just had this look in her eyes that I could see her time was coming. She ended up going into the doctor because of this cough and he officially told my parents it wouldn’t be long.

She celebrated Christmas with us and we got her into the nursing home after. She wasn’t doing well. She did her best every day to show us she was okay though. She hated the breathing tube so took it out of her nose often. She also tried to be stubborn with doing stuff for herself but they installed an alarm on her bed that went off if she tried to get out on her own. She couldn’t breathe well and it was really hard for her to even walk to the bathroom.

We colored and played cards when she was up for it and visited often. I knew she was hanging on for something but knew it wouldn’t be long. Easter came around. I saw her that morning on my way to the inlaw’s home. I told her I would be back after the others visited. I knew everyone was coming and with our family that would be crowded in that nursing home. I gave her a big hug, she didn’t have much in her hugs in weeks. She smiled, she was so happy for everyone to be coming.

I stopped back to the nursing home, I heard mom had such a wonderful day. I came into the room and she could barely move. I knew it would be soon. I gave her a hug and she just hung on. It was her strongest hug in a very long time. I said, “it’s okay mom, you can go see grandma and grandpa. I’ll be okay”. She shook her head yes and just held on for a few mins more. She fell back to sleep and I left.

I called my sister who was the contact for everything and I said you call me the second you hear. She was like what do you mean? mom was so good today, she laughed, told jokes, and so full of life. I said, Kathy- it will be soon. I explained what happened tonight and she was a bit baffled but knew I was probably right. I got the text first thing the next morning and I jumped in the car and went straight out there. She was barely breathing and passed so beautifully in front of the few of us that were there. My sister who was travelling still, said she saw a light in the rain and knew what had happened. She was close. It was so beautiful.

It is so hard to lose a mother but also so hard to watch them suffer. My prayers are going out to my friend’s family. I pray that they find comfort in knowing that she led a good life and will be going onto her eternal life free from pain. My love goes out to all who have lost someone close to them or going through anything similar.

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Week 2- Year of Marathon

This week was slower for me on the treadmill. I think I have a cold or at least been fighting one. I ended up taking off on Thursday, snow came through and I had to being Hermione to the vet for a followup after her surgery.

On Sat (the day I try to spend as much time as possible there), I started on the elliptical to try something different and see if that would help with timing. It did backfire on me slightly but only because I was right next to the fan and that flared up my allergies/ cold. I only made it 15 mins on that before switching to the treadmill. I did a lot of hills because I was struggling more with breathing after the fan thing… I finished my first book, which this has been great to do to keep me on the machines longer. I don’t think it helps much with the speed though. I ended the week gaining a mile. 12 weeks until my first race of the year… 20 until my first 1/2 marathon, and 38 weeks until the marathon. So I have to start gaining a mile in my longs runs pretty much every other week starting in Feb.

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Week 1 – Year of Marathon

2018 has started off a bit on the rocky side. Monday was a tough run after celebrating the night before. I do not do well for a few days after staying up past 10 (really 9 but lately its been more like 10). I was on the treadmill for 47 mins but barely could do 3 miles.

Tuesday was yoga day and it really felt good to do this after yesterday’s workout. I started a 30 day series on You Tube. I also did 10 mins of Pilates abs. Wednesday- back to the treadmill. Today was much better but I couldn’t find my headphones which was not as bad as I was dreading it to be. I did 40 mins running and 20 walking on a incline fast paced. I did day 2 of yoga in the evening. The run was great but did get a bit tired at the end. Thursday is repeat run day but at slower pace. I was very sore this day so although I spent 56 mins at the gym, I was much slower- I was exhausted from sleeping hard too, not a great combo. Did day 3 of yoga that evening.

Friday is always yoga day. It was 33 mins this day and normally I aim for an hour total but did day 4 of the series and was still pretty sore. Saturday morning, I got up late, had my morning coffee and forced myself off to the gym- long run day. Got there and the parking lot was completely full. I mean even the school side was packed. I figured a mix of things going on here but thought fine, I’ll just go this evening. I headed out to visit my day and by the time I got home, I barely wanted to do my yoga routine but at least squeezed that in. Then made the excuse on Sunday that if I run, I’ll throw my next week’s run off so I just did yoga again.

Eating wise, I did okay. I haven’t started the Paleo but I’ve been doing better with avoiding cream in my coffee. This is hard. I’ve cooked more from home but did drive out to get a deep dish on Friday night. I need to start making this from home. I know it. I did pull out the pressure cookers last night and made an excellent version of our Chipotle Chicken and rice with veggies.

I do wonder how I’ll ever make it to marathon ready but at the same time, signed up for a couple more races that will make me want to run more sooner. No said it would be easy but I’m glad I have my journal to really take note of how I am feeling what I am doing and to try an work harder to the future. It is always just 1 step at a time and I know I can tackle anything I set my mind too even if my mind tries to counter it.

For those just starting out in running- imagine yourself doing it as much as possible. See the success and you will do it. Don’t let that piece of you that says nope never going to happen take over, counter it every time with a vision of your crossing that finish line. Start with the starting line, all those people around you, where you are starting, speed you want to go (I personally like the back so I can force myself slow at first than I do better over all), imagine the trail and those around you as you run, some will pass you and you will pass some, feel the breeze, see the hill, hear your music and even imagine the water stations, how you will run up to it, pause to grab a water cup, drink it down as your walking away, throw your cup and a way you go again. See that finish line now, now you push it forward, run more, you want to finish strong, you see that camera coming soon, try to smile with your body so you don’t look so dead in the photo (I hate how I look crossing the line every time- lol) and there you go, you did it!

Multiply this for longer races and you will get there. You can run and you can do this for your workout plans too. Get your mind wrapped around you doing this. You are strong.

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It’s okay to cheat

on your diet people- get your head out of the gutter. I would never condone hurting another person or breaking a commandment.

I’m already seeing posts on how many have already cheated on their 2018 diet. Who cares? Seriously it is okay. Do not let this define you or beat yourself up about it. I’ve been there, done that. It gives you a great excuse to quit and are you a quitter??? No!

So yes, you had that delicious coffee treat that cost you 500 calories. oh man. or maybe it was those leftover Christmas cookie- so yummy. Nope, it was those delicious red velvet cupcakes that I made with the yummy cream cheese frosting (Am I a genius in baking or what?). Yes, we all do it but we cannot let it define us.

Today, we get up and start again- no I hate that as much as I hate the word diet. We continue on with our practice. We go out and exercise again, we continue eating clean today and we do not let 1 little cheat define our new year. I know I am not. I’m not letting the scale define me either but I’ll save that for a different day rant. lol

Now go out there and kick some butt!

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Complaining Goal

This year I have actually decided that I would focus on “resolutions”. This is one that didn’t make the “list” per say but one that I find just as important to work on. We have become a society that has found humor in complaining and it has become a focus. Monday is coming- oh no another work week. What? Our ancestors thrived in working. We go to school to become our dream only complain about doing it?

When I was re-reading Psycho-Cybernetics (which is like reading for the first time), I heard that someone predicted that the “Thank God it’s Friday” phrase would stir up an “Oh no it’s Monday” phrase. It did. To push it further, we now get a long holiday weekend or vacation and absolutely dread going back to work the next week. It doesn’t make sense.

I look at my 18 year old son and he is proud to be working. He is a sandwich artist and he does everything he can to work. He does not complain. He is in college to do something much more and he is enjoying his ride to get there. I think sometimes we are so focused on what we want in the future that we forget to just sit back and enjoy where we are now.

I do believe this starts with a mindset of thankfulness and looking forward to each day as it comes. Work is not going to go away and if we spend each week dreading Monday, we are wasting at least one-seventh of our life complaining about Mondays. Wow, that is too much time focused on the negative. So this year I am vowing to look at each day as a new adventure, to be happy with what I have (I could be jobless and be stressed about so much more), and to make sure I know each day what I am thankful for. What are your commitments?

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Goals and Dreams

I read recently how goals are dreams with deadlines. I really like this way of looking at things. Goal setting is hard work but dreaming is easy. The reason that I love this saying though is in order to make any goal come true, you really have to dream it out. Think about the very thing that you want at that very moment. You need to imagine each step it takes to get that thing all the way down to the finest details. What are you wearing, what are you doing, where are you going, what are you driving to get there, what color is the room, how about the decor? Each one of these details are vital to making your dreams come true.

So in goal setting, it is important to follow the well-known SMART system. Make sure the goal is specific and that you have a time-frame in mind. Do not limit yourself by expectations though. Imagine yourself in the place you really want to be. Something that you can track your progress is important too but do not limit yourself to only picking something easy because of this. If you can do it in your mind, you can do it. Now obviously you may not fly a broomstick but at one time, a plane was unimaginable. The best thing you can do for yourself is to dream. Each day imagine each step it will take to get to your goals.

An example that I am working with right now is. I get up and imagine my workout for the day. How far am I going to go, what am I wearing, what am I listening to, how do I feel, what is the speed, what is my intention. I visualize it all out as soon as I get up to make it happen. My goal with this is to improve each workout, to get faster and stronger. Through these visualizations, I will have already convinced my mind that I did so doing it is not a problem.

This is how you build your confidence in your goals. No going back because you let your mind believe you can’t go any further. Time to convince yourself differently. I have a few books that I can recommend to help you get there. Take that leap of faith and do what you dreamed you can do.

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