It’s okay to cheat

on your diet people- get your head out of the gutter. I would never condone hurting another person or breaking a commandment.

I’m already seeing posts on how many have already cheated on their 2018 diet. Who cares? Seriously it is okay. Do not let this define you or beat yourself up about it. I’ve been there, done that. It gives you a great excuse to quit and are you a quitter??? No!

So yes, you had that delicious coffee treat that cost you 500 calories. oh man. or maybe it was those leftover Christmas cookie- so yummy. Nope, it was those delicious red velvet cupcakes that I made with the yummy cream cheese frosting (Am I a genius in baking or what?). Yes, we all do it but we cannot let it define us.

Today, we get up and start again- no I hate that as much as I hate the word diet. We continue on with our practice. We go out and exercise again, we continue eating clean today and we do not let 1 little cheat define our new year. I know I am not. I’m not letting the scale define me either but I’ll save that for a different day rant. lol

Now go out there and kick some butt!

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Complaining Goal

This year I have actually decided that I would focus on “resolutions”. This is one that didn’t make the “list” per say but one that I find just as important to work on. We have become a society that has found humor in complaining and it has become a focus. Monday is coming- oh no another work week. What? Our ancestors thrived in working. We go to school to become our dream only complain about doing it?

When I was re-reading Psycho-Cybernetics (which is like reading for the first time), I heard that someone predicted that the “Thank God it’s Friday” phrase would stir up an “Oh no it’s Monday” phrase. It did. To push it further, we now get a long holiday weekend or vacation and absolutely dread going back to work the next week. It doesn’t make sense.

I look at my 18 year old son and he is proud to be working. He is a sandwich artist and he does everything he can to work. He does not complain. He is in college to do something much more and he is enjoying his ride to get there. I think sometimes we are so focused on what we want in the future that we forget to just sit back and enjoy where we are now.

I do believe this starts with a mindset of thankfulness and looking forward to each day as it comes. Work is not going to go away and if we spend each week dreading Monday, we are wasting at least one-seventh of our life complaining about Mondays. Wow, that is too much time focused on the negative. So this year I am vowing to look at each day as a new adventure, to be happy with what I have (I could be jobless and be stressed about so much more), and to make sure I know each day what I am thankful for. What are your commitments?

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Goals and Dreams

I read recently how goals are dreams with deadlines. I really like this way of looking at things. Goal setting is hard work but dreaming is easy. The reason that I love this saying though is in order to make any goal come true, you really have to dream it out. Think about the very thing that you want at that very moment. You need to imagine each step it takes to get that thing all the way down to the finest details. What are you wearing, what are you doing, where are you going, what are you driving to get there, what color is the room, how about the decor? Each one of these details are vital to making your dreams come true.

So in goal setting, it is important to follow the well-known SMART system. Make sure the goal is specific and that you have a time-frame in mind. Do not limit yourself by expectations though. Imagine yourself in the place you really want to be. Something that you can track your progress is important too but do not limit yourself to only picking something easy because of this. If you can do it in your mind, you can do it. Now obviously you may not fly a broomstick but at one time, a plane was unimaginable. The best thing you can do for yourself is to dream. Each day imagine each step it will take to get to your goals.

An example that I am working with right now is. I get up and imagine my workout for the day. How far am I going to go, what am I wearing, what am I listening to, how do I feel, what is the speed, what is my intention. I visualize it all out as soon as I get up to make it happen. My goal with this is to improve each workout, to get faster and stronger. Through these visualizations, I will have already convinced my mind that I did so doing it is not a problem.

This is how you build your confidence in your goals. No going back because you let your mind believe you can’t go any further. Time to convince yourself differently. I have a few books that I can recommend to help you get there. Take that leap of faith and do what you dreamed you can do.

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Christmas time and keeping on track

This is absolutely my favorite time of year. Since the moment that I got married, I have been doing everything I can to make this feeling last. It comes earlier (except the last couple of years, we have waited until Nov). Decorating is so much fun. Putting up each special ornament, the ones the kids spent so much time making when they were little to our fancy ones that we spent a bit of money on. I love pulling out each Santa, the nativity sets, my stop in for cocoa sign, it all is just so wonderful.

Shopping- well I have this love/ hate relationship with this. I do not like the big crowds or if people are pushy (yes, I avoid black Friday with everything I have- lol). But to find the gifts that I know each person will love, that is something special.

Baking- Here is the where the trouble tends to sneak in a bit. I love to bake and I’m good at it. It is so hard to resist my frosting (and I really am not the biggest fan otherwise) or my carmel- oh so yummy). Then my sister makes my other favorites and wow am I done.

Cooking- Yes, this is another downfall for me. I’m great at it but the problem is this time of year, I get soooooo busy that we do nothing but eat out. Yuck! And then the pounds start to come….

And last but not least- exercise. Yup I make every excuse not to make it to the gym during this time of year. So what am I going to do to get back there? Well I went out a bought a few new things that I am excited to use and I hate to waste money. New running shoes- yay! These are my favorite. A new style of sports bra from Victoria Secret. I have always loved them for support as they have the double layering with the clip and zip. This one is lighter weight though and does not have the zip so I’m excited to see what I think. Then there is the new running log book. Yay! Something to keep focused on the marathon.

I also bought a Paleo book to try eating better. I’m committing to the 28 days of strict eating and will start to add somethings back but watching closely what I eat. Lastly I bought a new bag that I can carry my purse in if I want but most importantly carry my planners and some notebooks to stay really focused this year. I’m looking forward to an awesome 2018- how about you?

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2018 Goals

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about the things that I want to start doing. I’m really doing a purging week this week to start strong.

But it is a little ironic when I think about my post for New Years last year and when I look back over the year.

Some things I find myself thinking about is

  • being careful not to go overboard to a point that I quit
  • How will I stay on track since I’ve set some major goals
  • Is there a team I can join to keep accountability
  • And so many other fears that have me questioning everything

I hate setting anything with a new year in mind but honestly it’s more about timing than a new year. See I set the goal for marathon before now. I knew the holidays would be hard and while I tried to keep to a schedule, as soon as I got busy that went away. How fitting that my previous trainers newsletter today was all about excuses. He stated that if you were promised millions of dollars would you find a way anyway to get you healthy living done?

Wow that’s pretty powerful and I do it all the time. This is a huge reason why I’m scared to commit to the marathon. I’m great at making excuses and that is not a way to live. I need to fight for my health and doing things right and subsequently this race.

So while I enter a new year with many goals, most are mini-goals to achieve a much larger goal which I’m hoping in the long run will lead to a life long of better health (looky there I made a pun)

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Conformity

I am different. Sometimes my thoughts, actions, clothes, and everything else is not the same as everyone else and guess what? It is okay! I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. I have raised 4 children that are young adults and each are so incredibly different from one another. They have the same moral compass for the main part but could not be further from the same. Sometimes I find myself questioning this and how it came to be.

The thing is, there are times in my life that I feel like I’m losing an argument because my opinion of something does not conform to the crowd. My opinion vs. theirs does not make either one of us right or wrong- it is how we feel. Why do we do this to each other. I’ve seen pure stubbornness come out to the point that people fight when you can see neither wants to anymore. But the thing is, they know that what they feel is valid and the other person just cannot see so they try to explain in different ways to get the other person to understand. But all that comes out is more frustration because the other person is doing the same. Both are feeling Like the other is understanding and no one is winning.

Why is it so hard to understand the easiest thing to do would be to say- I understand your point of view and mine is different. Both are okay to have and we should not change either just know that we each have a point of view.

One of my favorite quotes by an unknown author is “You don’t have to be like the world to have an impact on the world. You don’t have to be like the crowd to change the crowd. You don’t have to lower yourself down to their level to lift them up to your level. Holiness doesn’t seek to be odd. Holiness seeks to be like God”

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A Fairytale

I was once asked, a long time ago, how could I believe as it sounds like a great story similar to Santa Claus. At that time, I was a bit thrown back and really wasn’t sure how to answer other than saying faith. Sure I’ve seen several things going around since then about how I would rather believe and be wrong and nothing happen than to not believe and be wrong and sentenced to a miserable afterlife. Sure that is great and all but here’s the thing, this friend is a great atheist friend of mind who needs facts.

She is an excellent person just never knew God. This question has haunted me for years. Anyone who knows a Christian well, knows that they love the opportunity to share and have been called to do so. So, when they haven’t been able to answer a question the way that they felt they should, it tends to bother them.

I have been reading Ezekiel off and on recently. The first chapter, you try to figure out what exactly he saw. It sounds like straight out of a movie with the 4 heads part man and part beast. But, it also leads to the thrown and the Lord. I would love to sit and analyze this out with a drawing one day. But when you read what he is called to do, it is not fairy tale story.   In fact, many would think he was crazy for listening to God in such a way.

This got me to thinking about the Bible as a whole and there is a lot of torture, war, anger, and no where near the loving story of Santa Claus. So, then there is Jesus, which I do think can sound very similar to those who don’t know Him. Sure, he saved us from out own sin. And he was a Saint but the torture that He endured is so much more or different than any story that I’ve read.

When I think of Saint Nick, sure there is the story of how he had to sneak around as to not get caught breaking the law but so he could spread the gifts of love and allow for children to have happiness. It is funny how this turned into a tradition of selfishness in many ways when it started so innocent. Jesus never snuck around even though many did not want to hear or believe who He was. He was ridiculed and punished even though He proved himself to be great time and time again.

Maybe this is why I froze on that day, there is so much to think about and how do you explain all of this in a short conversation. And with me, I definitely could make this so much longer with all the account of things not being easy at all but how in their beliefs, the conquered over evil. Okay so maybe that does sound a little fairy-talish but again, what does it really hurt to believe? And what happens if I’m right? I would much rather be here living my life in the name of the Father than questioning anything else.

Proverbs 15: 1- A gentle answer turns away wrath but harsh words stir up anger. 24- The path of life leads upward for the wise to keep him from going down to the grave.

Proverbs 16: 19-20- Better to be lowly in spirit and among the oppressed than to share plunder with the proud. Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers, and blessed is he who trusts in the Lord.

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Some questions that I get

I always think its funny the questions that I get asked when people hear about my workouts. I’m not super skinny, I’m a mom and well, I have a chest. I worked out with a trainer at my previous work and he would put us through a series of different workouts. One of his favorite exercises is jumping jacks.

Oh how so many of us hate this exercise and I think for a variety of reasons. Gym class as a kid, trying to figure out the coordination of this exercise to start. Well as you get older or if you had kids, you have a new reason to hate this exercise. It is hard to hold your bladder! So a question that I’ve been asked is how to I handle that. For me personally, just making sure that I’ve gone before a workout has been good enough. But I am a firm believer that the more strength that you build, the less likely that you have to worry about this.

My daughters and I teach Sunday School. Yesterday, at Church, we were in the family gathering portion of the Sunday School hour. The director or missions had told one of my daughter’s co-teacher that I was doing the marathon with her. This lady, then asked my daughter how I run. And said that I was like her and she really wants to run. So E being very embarrassed called me over. It was funny. I told her that I get the double duty bras at VS. They clasp first than zip and I feel that they have made all the difference. I tell people about these kind of bras all the time. You can now buy them anywhere but I have yet to try other brands. Maybe, now that I’m starting this new journey, I’ll have to review some products and see what works and what doesn’t.

Isn’t life fun? Enjoy your Monday run or whatever exercise you are doing today. Just remember to get out there and do something- anything to move.

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Running update- week 8

I’ve been in a lovely roller coaster pattern of emotions and just plain and simple doing. Running is so fascinating. As you know, I started this journey with running about 2 years ago working out with a trainer. Sure I was doing great things with him but I was not losing much weight. My back was still bothering me regularly and well, I was always scared to try anything because of my hip. I still have these mental road blocks but today, I push right through them, which is probably something running has taught me.

So as far as the roller coaster goes. My first one is really my patterns. I was doing either yoga or running every day for a little over a month when a week where my schedule was getting the best of me and well, I could’t make it to the gym- yes an excuse. I have not done much of the cold outdoor running because well, it’s cold. I hate the way it feels on my lungs and it just seems so much harder but easier at the same time. Okay, yes- I need to do better with this, we will get there- goal for next year… 😉

With this one week of throwing me off, I did get lazy. I made more excuses the following week on getting to the gym and finally got myself there. I’ve been reading the book Running for Women by Danica Newon and in this, it suggested a different running pattern than I’ve been using (still sticking to the 80/20 but thought I’d give it a try this week). Much more math involved and well I definitely was not perfect but who is?

I did enjoy the difference but I do think it’s because I was changing it up- keeping in my for further reference. I also, took the tip of listening to a good book while running the long runs. I have been doing this my last couple of runs and I really don’t want to get off the treadmill because I want to keep listening. The fun part is I really don’t have time to do it any other time so it does help me to stay focused if I want to know what’s going to happen in this book.

Emotions- I hate missing a day. I beat myself up mentally on it. If I get a good yoga session in, I’m less likely to do that but it is hard. This leads to me questioning, can I do this? Will I be able to run 26.2 miles in a year??? Which brings on this whole new set of anxiety. Then I remember to take it one day at a time. I think of all I have accomplished. I remember my first mile run test with the trainer. OH man, was I going to die and what was it? 13. something mins for that run- not horrible but he had told me goal to be in decent shape is 12 mins. Then my beautiful daughters are doing it in like 8-9 mins. My son could in like 7 mins.

I thought man, I’m never going to hit 12 mins and at that time, I said I would never be a runner. Then a friend of mine posted to facebook her list of runs for that year. I’m like okay, everyone I know that runs is in good shape. They look great, feel great- lets give it a try. This friend was running in my town and why not sign up for that one. At the time, it gave me 3 months to learn to run 3.1 miles- simple enough. I knew I could do a walk/ run of 2 miles and adding a 3rd shouldn’t be terrible. I finished that race in I think 48 mins. First mile was 13 something, second 14 something and third 15 something.

I now can do a 5k in under 40 mins and run a 12 min mile. It isn’t easy doing this on the treadmill because on the treadmill, my mind gets the better of me and I really do have to push through mental road blocks. But when I’m outside and don’t know how far I’m running or how fast that I’m going, I’m free and run so much better. Knowing how far that I’ve come, helps me to focus on how far I can go. Now, to get myself feeling better so I can get back to my long run today would be great but probably tomorrow- now this is going to be hard…

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Give your praise

before you hit your knee- what a great phrase, have you ever thought about what it means?

It is so easy for us to fall into the victim role- it made not be our mentality per say but we fall into this role without thinking about it. We will think why is this happening to me and then we go straight to prayer griping about our woes. We ask, ask, ask, and repeat.

Now let’s stop and think about the saying. Giving praise does so much for us than we realize. Not only are we recognizing God for all that He does, we are seeing the great things in our life. Our focus begins to shift. We realize that it is not all bad.

A big question is where to get started. Praise doesn’t always come easy, especially when facing something big in our life. We tend to lose focus of the good and only see bad. I like to call this walking around in the dark and only seeing the dark. We forget to search for the light even though it is beckoning just beyond the tree line.

My advise- start with a list (if you know me, you know I LoVe my lists). I would say start really small. We tend to lean towards the big stuff first because we want to just jump. This is overwhelming and yes easy to give up. So write 1 thing down a day, if that is all you can do. Since it is common to start my goals in 3-5s, I would say start there. But do what you can, just remember not to over do it.

You can start at the simplest. I’m thankful for the roof over my head, food on my table, my family and pets. I’m thank to have a job, a car, place to live, and that list can go on and on. Easy enough, write down 3-5 similar each day. As you are going, start looking at more of your day. I’m thankful I made it to work on time and safe. I’m thankful that all my family made it home tonight to eat dinner around the table. I’m thankful for the time I spent with my friend or family member that is hard to see. The more you start to see these things daily, the more light you start to let in and the less dark your world will become.

Colossians 3:17 (NIV)

And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

A book that I was recommended to read and is in my amazon cart for my next order is One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp. My understanding it is about a woman who is finding her way to thankfulness and her recommendations on how to do this & what she experienced doing so. If you get this book, let me know what you think and I’ll do the same as soon as I read it.

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